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Annual Singles Dating Survey 2018 by Lunch Actually

Lunch Actually (LA) ๐Ÿ’œ ~~ The Asia๐ŸŒŽโ€™s 1๏ธโƒฃst & leading premier lunch ๐Ÿด๐Ÿฝ dating ๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’ company has recently released the findings ๐Ÿ“ˆ๐Ÿ“Š๐Ÿ“‘ compiled from its Annual Singles ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌDating ๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’ Survey 2018 ๐Ÿ“Œ๐Ÿ“‹โœ…ย in conjuction with the 11.11 Singles ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ ‘ Day celebration ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ

SiennyLovesDrawing ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปย was exclusively invited to attend this private media meetย ๐Ÿ“ฉ๐Ÿ“ง๐Ÿ’Œ


This survey๐Ÿ“Œ๐Ÿ“‹โœ… was conducted with 1.3k++ respondents ๐Ÿ‘ซ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ aka singles living in Singapore ๐Ÿ‡ธ๐Ÿ‡ฌ , Malaysia ๐Ÿ‡ฒ๐Ÿ‡พ , Hong Kong ๐Ÿ‡ญ๐Ÿ‡ฐ , Indonesia ๐Ÿ‡ฎ๐Ÿ‡ฉ & Thailand ๐Ÿ‡น๐Ÿ‡ญ The respondents๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌโ€™ gender ratio of 45% males ๐Ÿ‘ฌ vs 55% females ๐Ÿ‘ญ in the age groups between 26 to 45 years old ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

โ€œRecently, the trend of slow ๐Ÿ“‰ dating ๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’ has emerged among singles ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ where they no longer prefer having unlimited options when it comes to their potential matches. They are starting to prioritise quality over quantity.โ€ Ms. Violet Lim ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ผ , CEO & Co-Founder of LA ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ˜€

โ€œOur past surveys๐Ÿ“Œ๐Ÿ“‹โœ…, as recent as last year, showed that singles ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ are definitely more receptive โœ… in finding suitable partners ๐Ÿ‘ซ through online dating ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’However, we are curious ๐Ÿค” to know how singles ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ truly perceive online dating ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป ๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’ in 2018, with more & more โฌ†๏ธ online dating ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’ platforms being made available in the market,โ€ She ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ผ has added


Guess whatโ“โ‰๏ธ

It has captured some interesting data ๐Ÿ“ˆ๐Ÿ“Š๐Ÿ“‘ on shifting perception of online dating๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’ , attitudes & trends around online dating๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’, dating goals & preferences in this digital of technology & social media ๐Ÿ˜‰

~~ ๐Ÿ’• Singles ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ โ€™ Perception, Behaviors & Trends Revealed ๐Ÿ’• ~~

Hmm…What’s the singles ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ ‘ datingย ๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’ goals observedโ“โ‰๏ธ


Hmmโ€ฆStill curious ๐Ÿค” about the data ๐Ÿ“ˆ๐Ÿ“Š๐Ÿ“‘ compiledโ“โ‰๏ธ

Letโ€™s sharing some of the key takeaways ๐Ÿ“Œ๐Ÿ“Œ that SiennyLovesDrawing ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿป has gathered from her attendanceโœ…


Singles๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌโ€™ Online Dating ๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’ย Perception

A quick summary recorded,

  • 74% of singles ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ believing that online dating ๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’ is the cause of todayโ€™s hook-up culture
  • 46% ๐Ÿ‘ฌ๐Ÿ‘ญ believes that online dating ๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’ has killed โŒ committed relationship
  • 95% of singles ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ still want to be in a committed relationship
  • 92% ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ are looking to get married


75% of singles ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ with online dating ๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’ are indeed looking for a true relationship, although more than half of them admitted that their online dating๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’ experience has been -ve๐Ÿ˜Ÿ๐Ÿ˜”, especially for singles ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ in Singapore ๐Ÿ‡ธ๐Ÿ‡ฌ i.e. 69% for females๐Ÿ‘ญ & 61% males๐Ÿ‘ฌ


Hmm…How about for those who have not โŒ even started with online dating๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’โ“โ‰๏ธ

The top๐Ÿ‘†๐Ÿปreasons for not โŒ using online dating๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’are,

  • 61% are worried ๐Ÿ˜ง about meeting scammers
  • 37% are having heard๐Ÿ‘‚๐Ÿปa lot of bad ๐Ÿ‘Ž๐Ÿป experiences from other people

Across all genders & countries , 70% of singles๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ have used online dating ๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’ with 61% of them still highly prefer to meet potential partners ๐Ÿ‘ซ๐Ÿ‘ซ through organic introductions either in public places or recommendations from friends ๐Ÿ‘ซ๐Ÿ‘ฌ๐Ÿ‘ญ etc.

Dating Behaviour via Online Dating๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’

Overall, 18% of singles ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ spend time to create a good ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป profile on dating apps ๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ“ฒ

However, 60% admitted to read ๐Ÿ“– other dating ๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’ profiles in details, to decide ๐Ÿค” whether they are interested โœ…


Guess whatโ“โ‰๏ธ

Only 6% Hong Kong ladies ๐Ÿ‡ญ๐Ÿ‡ฐ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ญ will spend time to create a good ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป profile vs 69% of them only read ๐Ÿ“– the profiles of the men ๐Ÿ‘ฌ๐Ÿ‘ฌ in details

40% of Singaporean females ๐Ÿ‡ธ๐Ÿ‡ฌ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ญ do not text ๐Ÿ“ณ 1๏ธโƒฃst vs 34% for Malaysian females๐Ÿ‡ฒ๐Ÿ‡พ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ญ 64% of Hong Kong females๐Ÿ‡ญ๐Ÿ‡ฐ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ญ, on the other hand, take initiative & would text ๐Ÿ“ณ their matches ๐Ÿ‘ฌ๐Ÿ‘ฌ 1๏ธโƒฃst if they like ๐Ÿ˜ what they see ๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ“ฒ


Dating ๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’ Preferences

When it comes to online dating๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’, women ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ญ are as likely as men ๐Ÿ‘ฌ๐Ÿ‘ฌ to focus on physical ๐Ÿ‘€๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘ attraction ๐Ÿ˜

This survey ๐Ÿ“Œ๐Ÿ“‹โœ… has shown that ladies ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ญ choose physical appearance (height, body type, teeth, skin color) as the most important criteria when they decide whether to meet their match offline ๐Ÿ‘ซ


While texting ๐Ÿ“ณ etiquette is more important for ladies๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ญ, men๐Ÿ‘ฌ๐Ÿ‘ฌ are more focused on the dating๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’profiles of the ladies๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ญ

However, an exception can be seen in Malaysian singles ๐Ÿ‡ฒ๐Ÿ‡พ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ who do not rank physical appearance as the most important criteria. On the opposite spectrum, 45% of single men ๐Ÿ‘ฌ๐Ÿ‘ฌ in Hong Kong ๐Ÿ‡ญ๐Ÿ‡ฐ place this as the most important











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Most important for female (across all),

  • 23% Physical appearance (height, body type, teeth, skin color etc.)
  • 22% Texting ๐Ÿ“ณ etiquette
  • 20% Religion

Most important for male (across all):

  • 24% Physical appearance (height, body type, teeth, skin color etc.)
  • 21% The ladies๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ญโ€™ description of themselves in their dating ๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’ profile
  • 18% Race


However, once you get past the online dating ๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’ funnel & you meet in real life for the 1๏ธโƒฃst time, the top 3๏ธโƒฃ turn-offs are not about how you look at all. These are the top 3๏ธโƒฃ turn-offs ๐Ÿ™ƒ when it comes to 1๏ธโƒฃst dates: Their manner (how they treat you & the service staff) (67%), being -ve (50%) & lack of interest (48%). These are the same results for both men ๐Ÿ‘ฌ๐Ÿ‘ฌ & women๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ญ, across all countries๐ŸŒ


66% of singles ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ is open to dating people from another race. However, the exception to this is Malaysian female ๐Ÿ‡ฒ๐Ÿ‡พ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ญ with 53.66% of them saying no โŒ to dating people from another race as compared to Singaporean female ๐Ÿ‡ธ๐Ÿ‡ฌ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ญ (42% says no) & Hong Kong Female ๐Ÿ‡ญ๐Ÿ‡ฐ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ญ(37% says no)

Most open to interracial dating are Indonesian females (94%) ๐Ÿ‡ฎ๐Ÿ‡ฉ ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ญ, Thailand females (91%) ๐Ÿ‡น๐Ÿ‡ญ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ญ & Thailand men (86%) ๐Ÿ‡น๐Ÿ‡ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ๐Ÿ‘ฌ

Overall, more female (34%) ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ญ believe in going Dutch on the 1๏ธโƒฃst date as compared to male (25%) ๐Ÿ‘ฌ๐Ÿ‘ฌ Noteworthy result comes from Hong Kong ๐Ÿ‡ญ๐Ÿ‡ฐ , where higher statistics were observed with 41% of males ๐Ÿ‘ฌ๐Ÿ‘ฌ & 45% of females ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ญ prefer to go Dutch on the 1๏ธโƒฃst date. Thailand men ๐Ÿ‡น๐Ÿ‡ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ๐Ÿ‘ฌ are the most โ€˜gentlemanโ€™ with the highest percentage (61%) who believe they should pay ๐Ÿ’ฐ on the 1st date


Future Trends Of Dating ๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’

Some singles ๐Ÿ‘ฌ๐Ÿ‘ญ are more comfortable with their single ๐Ÿ‘ฌ๐Ÿ‘ญ status – despite majority wanting to get married ๐Ÿคต๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘ฐ๐Ÿป & be in a committed relationship, 20% of them are not actively looking for a partner & 29% of those who are not actively seeking have cited that they like being single ๐Ÿ‘ฌ๐Ÿ‘ญ to embracing their freedom (29%). This is especially true for Singaporean females ๐Ÿ‡ธ๐Ÿ‡ฌ ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ญ where 49% of those not actively looking for a partner as they enjoy being single ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ

With the shift of online dating ๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’ perception from the swiping culture to slow dating, it’s not surprising that more singles ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ highly prefer a more organic way of meeting potential partners through organic introductions e.g. meeting in public places/ recommendations from friends ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

โ€œ1๏ธโƒฃ of the key reasons why singles ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ like using online dating ๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’ is because itโ€™s easy & comfortable to use & itโ€™s free ๐Ÿ†“ & requires no commitment. Based on the survey results ๐Ÿ“ˆ๐Ÿ“Š๐Ÿ“‘, many singles ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ are actively looking & swiping online. Interestingly, they are not interested in investing much time/ effort in preparing their profile but they expect others to as many of them spend time reading ๐Ÿ“– the profiles,โ€ย Ms. Violet shared ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ผ


A comfy & nice catch up at this event ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ผ

It was a privilege to have an interview ๐Ÿ—ฃ๐Ÿ‘ค with Ms Violet ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ผ & requested her to share some dating tips, do enjoy a short clip ๐Ÿ“น๐ŸŽฅ captured by SiennyLovesDrawing ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿป for sharing here

LA ๐Ÿ’œ helps singles ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ meet compatible & like-minded singles ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ through pre-screened, pre-matched & pre-arranged 1๏ธโƒฃ-to-1๏ธโƒฃ dates, to achieve their goal of 1๏ธโƒฃ million happy ๐Ÿ˜ƒ marriages ๐Ÿ‘ฐ๐Ÿป๐Ÿคต๐Ÿป


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7 Golden Rules of Matchmaking

Ahem…matchmaking? ๐Ÿค”

Am sure you may have friends who are not dating๐Ÿ‘ซanyone/ seeing anyone romantically ๐Ÿ’ž in a while?

If yes, are you positive to pair up๐Ÿ‘ซsome of your single & available friends?

Hmm…most of us may just introduce one to the other & with a hope that it will be then trigger a good start of a โ€˜happily ever after ๐Ÿ’žโ€™.

However, in reality, matchmaking requires much more work than just introducing! ๐Ÿ˜Ž

Recently, SiennyLovesDrawing was invited as media to attend an exclusive Matchmaking Masterclass conducted by Asiaโ€™s 1st๐Ÿฅ‡& leading dating company, Lunch Actually to learn ย about the art of modern matchmaking ๐Ÿค“

According to Violet Lim, the CEO๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ผ& co-founder of Lunch Actually, the most common questionโ“that often being asked is: โ€œHow do you ensure singles receive a compatible match?โ€ โค๏ธ

โ€œToday with the rising trend of online ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป& mobile ๐Ÿ“ฑ dating services, singles may have an abundance of matches introduced to them on a daily basis. Yet, how do they get the quality out from the quantity? This is why matchmaking is still as relevant as ever; itโ€™s all very personal,โ€ said Violet during the Matchmaking Masterclass.

Hmmโ€ฆsharing some of the the Chief Cupidโ€™s Best-Kept Secrets captured by SiennyLovesDrawing from her attendance,

Request for consent 1st

Before you start to introduce a potential date for your friends/ family members, do ask ๐Ÿ—ฃ for their consent 1st ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿปโ“

It is important to respect your friend & to ensure that he/ she is receptive to your matchmaking idea. Then, a higher chance of matchmaking success! ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿปโค๏ธ

Matchmakers are not God

None of us can predict chemistry, even the best & most experienced matchmakers will not get 100% ๐Ÿ’ฏsuccesses in the matches they make.

So, if your match does not work out ๐Ÿ’”, donโ€™t be too hard on yourself ๐Ÿ™ƒJust do your best to ensure the match is at least 60-70% compatible esp. their values believe. Then, the rest will be up to the couple ๐Ÿ‘ซ

Enhancing your matchmaking Intuition

According to Violet, a great matchmaker needs to be sensitive & perceptive, which can be nurtured through continuous matching & getting constructive feedback from the singles ย ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปinvolved.

Listen to what they want & know what they need

Matchmakers should take time to understand the singles ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿป e.g. hobbies โ›น๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿป๐ŸŠ๐Ÿป๐Ÿšด๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ, past relationships ๐Ÿ’”, closely-held beliefs etc., including why the singles have certain preferences.

It is important that you let the singles ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿป know that you as a matchmaker unable to produce their ideal partner โค๏ธto the exact detail. Instead it is important to provide your thought to what they need after consulting with them.

Give tough love

When some singles๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปactually insisted on clinging on to unreasonable cum unrealistic expectations, then some tough love is needed. Matchmakers to make the single realises that when they are doing the choosing, others are choosing based on their own preference as well.

Matchmakers to remind the singles that a fulfilling relationships ๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ‘ซ are not based on criteria e.g. height, education level, hair length etc., most importantly the compatibility in values & the ability of both parties to compromise ๐Ÿ’‘

Be understanding of underlying challenges & struggles

At times, there could be some underlying reasons that are stopping the singles๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปfrom finding the right one/ being in a relationship

Matchmakers then to guide the singles ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปto open up & talk about the underlying challenges & struggles e.g. low self-esteem to past lovers who have hurt them deeply ๐Ÿ˜ญ etc.

Matchmakers need to understand the singlesโ€™ fears, then help them to get over those stumbling blocks as you help them searching for love โค๏ธ

Above all, be non-judgmental

Matchmakers must withhold your initial judgments, get to know & understand who the singles ย ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปreally are. When you trust your 1st judgment, it may be coloured by oneโ€™s past experiences & prejudices e.g. someone with tattoos & you might immediately make a conclusion that this person = a gangster.

It is important for matchmakers to be a good listener, be approachable & learn to look beyond 1st impressions ๐Ÿ˜€

Yeah! SiennyLovesDrawing is now an official love โค๏ธ cupid ๐Ÿน๐Ÿ˜ƒ

Hmmโ€ฆwill she do a good job? ๐Ÿ˜†

Do explore about matchmaking via,

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