7 Golden Rules of Matchmaking

Ahem…matchmaking? ๐Ÿค”

Am sure you may have friends who are not dating๐Ÿ‘ซanyone/ seeing anyone romantically ๐Ÿ’ž in a while?

If yes, are you positive to pair up๐Ÿ‘ซsome of your single & available friends?

Hmm…most of us may just introduce one to the other & with a hope that it will be then trigger a good start of a โ€˜happily ever after ๐Ÿ’žโ€™.

However, in reality, matchmaking requires much more work than just introducing! ๐Ÿ˜Ž

Recently, SiennyLovesDrawing was invited as media to attend an exclusive Matchmaking Masterclass conducted by Asiaโ€™s 1st๐Ÿฅ‡& leading dating company, Lunch Actually to learn ย about the art of modern matchmaking ๐Ÿค“

According to Violet Lim, the CEO๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ผ& co-founder of Lunch Actually, the most common questionโ“that often being asked is: โ€œHow do you ensure singles receive a compatible match?โ€ โค๏ธ

โ€œToday with the rising trend of online ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿ’ป& mobile ๐Ÿ“ฑ dating services, singles may have an abundance of matches introduced to them on a daily basis. Yet, how do they get the quality out from the quantity? This is why matchmaking is still as relevant as ever; itโ€™s all very personal,โ€ said Violet during the Matchmaking Masterclass.

Hmmโ€ฆsharing some of the the Chief Cupidโ€™s Best-Kept Secrets captured by SiennyLovesDrawing from her attendance,

Request for consent 1st

Before you start to introduce a potential date for your friends/ family members, do ask ๐Ÿ—ฃ for their consent 1st ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿปโ“

It is important to respect your friend & to ensure that he/ she is receptive to your matchmaking idea. Then, a higher chance of matchmaking success! ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿปโค๏ธ

Matchmakers are not God

None of us can predict chemistry, even the best & most experienced matchmakers will not get 100% ๐Ÿ’ฏsuccesses in the matches they make.

So, if your match does not work out ๐Ÿ’”, donโ€™t be too hard on yourself ๐Ÿ™ƒJust do your best to ensure the match is at least 60-70% compatible esp. their values believe. Then, the rest will be up to the couple ๐Ÿ‘ซ

Enhancing your matchmaking Intuition

According to Violet, a great matchmaker needs to be sensitive & perceptive, which can be nurtured through continuous matching & getting constructive feedback from the singles ย ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปinvolved.

Listen to what they want & know what they need

Matchmakers should take time to understand the singles ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿป e.g. hobbies โ›น๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿป๐ŸŠ๐Ÿป๐Ÿšด๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ, past relationships ๐Ÿ’”, closely-held beliefs etc., including why the singles have certain preferences.

It is important that you let the singles ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿป know that you as a matchmaker unable to produce their ideal partner โค๏ธto the exact detail. Instead it is important to provide your thought to what they need after consulting with them.

Give tough love

When some singles๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปactually insisted on clinging on to unreasonable cum unrealistic expectations, then some tough love is needed. Matchmakers to make the single realises that when they are doing the choosing, others are choosing based on their own preference as well.

Matchmakers to remind the singles that a fulfilling relationships ๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ‘ซ are not based on criteria e.g. height, education level, hair length etc., most importantly the compatibility in values & the ability of both parties to compromise ๐Ÿ’‘

Be understanding of underlying challenges & struggles

At times, there could be some underlying reasons that are stopping the singles๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปfrom finding the right one/ being in a relationship

Matchmakers then to guide the singles ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปto open up & talk about the underlying challenges & struggles e.g. low self-esteem to past lovers who have hurt them deeply ๐Ÿ˜ญ etc.

Matchmakers need to understand the singlesโ€™ fears, then help them to get over those stumbling blocks as you help them searching for love โค๏ธ

Above all, be non-judgmental

Matchmakers must withhold your initial judgments, get to know & understand who the singles ย ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿปreally are. When you trust your 1st judgment, it may be coloured by oneโ€™s past experiences & prejudices e.g. someone with tattoos & you might immediately make a conclusion that this person = a gangster.

It is important for matchmakers to be a good listener, be approachable & learn to look beyond 1st impressions ๐Ÿ˜€

Yeah! SiennyLovesDrawing is now an official love โค๏ธ cupid ๐Ÿน๐Ÿ˜ƒ

Hmmโ€ฆwill she do a good job? ๐Ÿ˜†

Do explore about matchmaking via,

Website:ย https://www.lunchactually.com/ย &ย http://www.violetlim.com/

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IG:ย https://www.instagram.com/lunchactually/

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24 thoughts on “7 Golden Rules of Matchmaking

    1. Ha…Ha…thanks for your personal sharing that you enjoy matchmaking, Kelsee ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿปโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’‘

      Hope you gain some insights from the 7 golden rules in your future matchmakingssss then ๐Ÿ˜†โ˜บ๏ธ

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    1. Yeah! Frankly, after attended the class & heard from Violet, I truly agree that matchmakers not really an easy career though ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜†

      I prefer being bully by kids & continue my kids expressive art career ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ˜‰


  1. There’s someone that I know that is not dating and I have been trying to do a little match making. I am pretty lost when it comes to this type of activity. I can definitely use some of your tips.

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    1. Hi Prof Dylan, thanks for your comment, am glad that my sharing helps in your school facilitating ๐Ÿ™‚ Your comment here made my day as I never know that my blogging can help a prof, a big wow! ๐Ÿ˜€


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