Am sure you may have friends who are not dating👫anyone/ seeing anyone romantically 💞 in a while?
If yes, are you positive to pair up👫some of your single & available friends?
Hmm…most of us may just introduce one to the other & with a hope that it will be then trigger a good start of a ‘happily ever after 💞’.
However, in reality, matchmaking requires much more work than just introducing! 😎
Recently, SiennyLovesDrawing was invited as media to attend an exclusive Matchmaking Masterclass conducted by Asia’s 1st🥇& leading dating company, Lunch Actually to learn about the art of modern matchmaking 🤓
According to Violet Lim, the CEO👩🏻💼& co-founder of Lunch Actually, the most common question❓that often being asked is: “How do you ensure singles receive a compatible match?” ❤️
“Today with the rising trend of online 👩🏻💻👨🏻💻& mobile 📱 dating services, singles may have an abundance of matches introduced to them on a daily basis. Yet, how do they get the quality out from the quantity? This is why matchmaking is still as relevant as ever; it’s all very personal,” said Violet during the Matchmaking Masterclass.
Hmm…sharing some of the the Chief Cupid’s Best-Kept Secrets captured by SiennyLovesDrawing from her attendance,
Request for consent 1st
Before you start to introduce a potential date for your friends/ family members, do ask 🗣 for their consent 1st 👌🏻❓
It is important to respect your friend & to ensure that he/ she is receptive to your matchmaking idea. Then, a higher chance of matchmaking success! 👍🏻❤️
Matchmakers are not God
None of us can predict chemistry, even the best & most experienced matchmakers will not get 100% 💯successes in the matches they make.
So, if your match does not work out 💔, don’t be too hard on yourself 🙃Just do your best to ensure the match is at least 60-70% compatible esp. their values believe. Then, the rest will be up to the couple 👫
Enhancing your matchmaking Intuition
According to Violet, a great matchmaker needs to be sensitive & perceptive, which can be nurtured through continuous matching & getting constructive feedback from the singles 👩🏻👨🏻involved.
Listen to what they want & know what they need
Matchmakers should take time to understand the singles 👩🏻👨🏻 e.g. hobbies ⛹🏻♀️🏃🏻🏊🏻🚴🏻♀️, past relationships 💔, closely-held beliefs etc., including why the singles have certain preferences.
It is important that you let the singles 👩🏻👨🏻 know that you as a matchmaker unable to produce their ideal partner ❤️to the exact detail. Instead it is important to provide your thought to what they need after consulting with them.
Give tough love
When some singles👨🏻👩🏻actually insisted on clinging on to unreasonable cum unrealistic expectations, then some tough love is needed. Matchmakers to make the single realises that when they are doing the choosing, others are choosing based on their own preference as well.
Matchmakers to remind the singles that a fulfilling relationships 💞👫 are not based on criteria e.g. height, education level, hair length etc., most importantly the compatibility in values & the ability of both parties to compromise 💑
Be understanding of underlying challenges & struggles
At times, there could be some underlying reasons that are stopping the singles👩🏻👨🏻from finding the right one/ being in a relationship
Matchmakers then to guide the singles 👩🏻👨🏻to open up & talk about the underlying challenges & struggles e.g. low self-esteem to past lovers who have hurt them deeply 😭 etc.
Matchmakers need to understand the singles’ fears, then help them to get over those stumbling blocks as you help them searching for love ❤️
Above all, be non-judgmental
Matchmakers must withhold your initial judgments, get to know & understand who the singles 👩🏻👨🏻really are. When you trust your 1st judgment, it may be coloured by one’s past experiences & prejudices e.g. someone with tattoos & you might immediately make a conclusion that this person = a gangster.
It is important for matchmakers to be a good listener, be approachable & learn to look beyond 1st impressions 😀
Yeah! SiennyLovesDrawing is now an official love ❤️ cupid 🏹😃
Hmm…will she do a good job? 😆
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